We all complain.

But chronic complaining is doing less. Are you a doer or complainer? Which one do you prefer?

I complain about undesirable service in a restaurant and injustice in my backyard and public square.

What do you complain about?

Sometimes, I use a protest strategy to gain insight into new ideas or alternative solutions to my problem. I debate and question myself.

Happy doers are happy complainers. Happy doers do something before they complain about things or people.

Before you protest, examine these tips for your personal growth.

• Do your homework,
• Reflect on your core values,
• Be a…

Anger is a normal emotion. It feels similar to other emotions such as happiness, surprise, and sadness.

According to American Psychological Association, anger is “an emotion characterized by antagonism toward someone or something you feel has deliberately done you wrong.”

Think of it this way — we or others do something that makes us happy, or we or others do something to make us angry.

Feel free to express anger as needed and don’t suppress it. The truth is, out-of-control anger can make our friends and family members shun us. Use your anger for good.

Three good things about anger:

1. Understand anger.
2. Know the reason…

“Writing to the Unknown: The Hero’s Journey. May Writing Experience,” — Samantha Lazar.

Action beings relief. Hope shines light.

I’ve been a writer all my life.

I write every day. It’s something enjoyable and somewhat easy. For me, writing is like drinking water. I choose to write to be alive as I drink water to be hydrated every day.

I write about 50–1000 words per day. Most of my writing comes from reading and imagination. And others from observation and my professional or personal experience. Also, I record writing materials from any drama in my backyard and public square.

Publishing…

“Where the mind goes, the man/woman follows! If you want your life to change, your thought must also change.” — Joyce Meyer.

It is normal to have thousands of thoughts each day. Study shows humans have more than 6,000 thoughts per day.

Positive and negative thoughts come to all of us. It doesn’t matter who you are or what you have. What matters is you own your thought. That is, how you manage your thoughts, what you do with them, and most importantly, why you have the thoughts?

Our thoughts can influence our actions.

A positive thought comes, for example…

What is a good life?

I can define mine, and you can define yours. There is no one-size-fits-all.

What are you looking forward to today? Do what you enjoy and be happy.

Mary defines a good life as waking up in the morning, enjoy the sunshine, and a cup of coffee.
Sara defines a good life as a million followers on social media, beach body, and billions of dollars in the bank.

Max explains his good life as having fun with his friends and family.
My friend Mfon stresses her good life as sharing a meal with her hot husband.

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A happy Mother’s Day to You and all mothers around the world!

Motherhood is challenging and rewarding, and the job is not for everyone.

Mothers are humans with fear, hope, and aspiration. So never put mothers on pedestals or expect them to be super-humans.

This story is my personal opinion — as an individual, a daughter, a creative writer, a mother, and an aunt.

Motherhood: The real truth and the lies —

1. Mothers do everything for their children.

True: Mothers do everything because they follow the crowd and want to be liked. Who does everything?

Sometimes, machine.

Forget about likability and do what works for you.

Mothers are humans with ambition, fear, and hope…

Evaluation and judgment serve a purpose, and you can use both to inspire and empower yourself or others.

Joy lamented: Other parents in the park keep on asking me if my children are mine. Sometimes, the same woman asked me the same question every time I am there with my children.

Me: Try not to take it personally. Is not easy, but try. Sometimes, people judge us because of what they see and know. Be the first to introduce yourself and your children to people in the park. You can ask them if the children they have are their too.

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