Yes, many black men need to take care of themselves and help the mothers of their children and young children— simply. No excuses or blaming others.

I think young black women have learned to open their eyes and minds when it comes to intimate relationships. They don’t want takers anymore.

Struggle love =
1. Women dating and having six babies for five men without help from them.
2. One-sided relationship without benefits.
3. No father in the house to care for their children.

4. Never-ending abuse and addiction.


I’m so glad for the new generation of Black women who wants to raise their children in a stable home with a helper, not a taker.

These women don’t want to be abused and dumped. They are doing everything possible to stop “struggle love” and toxic relationships. Please understand if you have a daughter or sister.

Don’t gaslight them; instead, support their preference choice.

Pay attention.
Look around, and you’ll see the pattern of toxic behavior of some of these men. I believe you are not one of them.

Cheers 🍻