Woman, Never Forget Yourself
Choose not to forget yourself and your accomplishments. Don’t forget other women and their work.
Never forget yourself.
We are wired to forget our grandmothers, mothers, sisters, and daughters, and we rarely forgive them for their mistakes. Be conscious and work very hard, never forget yourself. And don’t forget Stacey Abrams and her work.
My friend’s father left Nigeria for London when she and her four siblings were under seven years old. Her mother worked as a teacher in the morning and as a Mama-put at night to put all her children through school.
According to my friend Ada, their family became poor because her father overstayed in the UK. Even worst, everyone in their church shunned her mother because she was a single mother.
Ada recently bought a Mercedes-Benz for her father and proudly told me how her father loved the vehicle. I was curious and asked her, “what vehicle does your mother drive?” She stared at me and tried to explain herself. Ada is a feminist with a brilliant mind, and she doesn’t like fancy cars.
Rosa Parks sat in a bus that sparked the Civil Rights movement, and she rarely remembers internationally. I’ve yet to attend Rosa’s conferences on Main Street or Wall Street. My colleague, Jade, laughed and said, “ oh, Rosa’s body of work wasn’t extensive.” Jade was wrong then and now.
Shirley Chisholm reminds us, “If they don’t give you a seat at the table, bring a folding chair.” I’ll add, build your own tables.
The Bible explains, “Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you: For every one that asketh receiveth; and he/she that seeketh findeth, and to him/her that knocketh it shall be opened.”
Black woman: Ask for what you desire— you deserve a reward for your skills and hard work while you’re living on earth. Never wait for a reward in heaven. For me, my heaven is here. Stacey Abrams notes, “My being a black woman is not a deficit. It is a strength.”
Stacey Abrams worked tiredly to register voters in the state of George, and she did a fantastic job.
Without her efforts to register new voters, we wouldn’t have obtained the state of Georgia for Biden/Harris, nor would we have Senators Raphael Warnock and Jon Ossoff in the U.S. Senate.
Speaker Nancy Pelosi: Love or hate her; she gets things done fast. Women get things done. We rarely want to be right but make things better for our family, community, and society.
Don’t call Nancy an old lady in your stories here. Many men in the senate and house are older than her, and I’ve yet to read writers describe them as older men. Choose not to forget Nancy, and never forget yourself and your accomplishment.
I believe women make things happen, and we have choices with our vote, skills, love, ideas, and money. Never forget yourself, and don’t forget Stacey. As a woman, learn to play a Chess game.
Add a woman you admire here or write a story about her:
“No matter what I do. I ask myself three questions: What do I want? Why do I want it? And how do I get it.” — Stacey Abrams.
For justice to prevail in all segments of society, it must start in ourselves, our family, and the community. We can work hard to be fair and give credit to whom it’s due. Gender should not matter for a work well done.
The first answer to your problem is to not only treat yourself better but to treat your mother better, and work hard to forgive your mother and yourself”.
We all make mistakes. I don’t have your experience. Sure, your experience is valid, and you have the right not to practice forgiveness. But many studies show forgiveness is for you and not for your old self, mother, sisters, or grandmother.
Be conscious and give credit to whom it’s due — yourself, your mother, sisters, grandmother, colleagues, friends, and others.
Help yourself grow.