French fries lift our mood, the fancy nylon blouse gives us excitement, and gossipers give us the bad news we crave.
For me, the three fasts are exciting, palatable, and comfortable.
Three fasts are easily available and rarely last. All are instant gratification and satisfy our emotional needs.
“Gossip is shared by the misinformed, who often sound like fools, while creating ongoing drama and disorder.” — Ty Howard
Who are they?
Fast people are some of our relatives, friends, business partners, colleagues, and trolls on social media. They are gossipers, whiners, naysayers, and the nicest people in the world.
My professional and personal experience shows these humans create toxic families, workplaces, and communities. They see nothing good in anything, and they rarely contribute to making things better.
Fast people are the revolving door. My experience shows these individuals are in and out for a short time — easy to test fast people. They are time wasters, energy vampires, and always what Adam Grant explains as takers.
Why I Stay Away From Fast People
Fast people add nothing to my life. Fast people call or visit when they need something from me. They always subtract and erase positive things. Fast people always waste my time, bring bad energy, and like Oliver Twist, asking for more things.
What Can You Do?
Life is too fabulous for you to hang out with people that bring you down or ruin your life.
Ask yourself these questions?
- Does your best friend accept you for who you are?
- Do your relatives drain your finances?
- Does your partner help make things better in her house, community, and the world?
“Fast fashion is like fast food. After the sugar rush, it just leaves a bad taste in your mouth.” — Livia First
Fast fashion overflows our homes, landfills, and destroys our environment.
Why do you enjoy fast fashion?
It is OK to like fast fashion. There is no one-size-fits-all. I think clothes build our confidence, and sometimes, we buy clothes to express how we feel or think. Do what works for you.
For me, fast fashion rarely fits, and it makes me uncomfortable. I prefer buying quality clothing I can use for 3 to 10 years than buying one I wear for one month. And I have a small closet and have no interest in upgrading it.
Do you prefer quality clothing, but you can’t afford them?
Yes, you can! My former client and my son’s friend’s mother taught me how to get quality clothing close to nothing from a consignment store, K-mart, Goodwill, and TJ Maxx stores.
You don’t need to be embarrassed about buying things from these stores. A silk blouse from K-mart can match your Italian shoes or go under a well-tailored jacket.
Note: Your “rich” friends buy from these stores too, but they will never tell you because it’s non of your business. Help yourself grow.
I bought some of my clothing from our local Goodwill store. They have quality clothing and sometimes with new with tags without wasting money. It saves me time, energy, and reduces my trash load.
You are right. I still buy clothing from fancy stores as needed.
Every time you spend money, you’re casting a vote for the kind of world you want.” — -Anna Lappe
Why I Stay Away From Fast Fashion:
Fast fashion clothing is exciting to have, but they are not who I am. They are a waste of money, take more time and energy, and rarely sit well on my body. I hate that I cannot sell or donate fast fashion after wearing these clothing a few times.
What Can You Do?
Look for upscale consignment stores and visit there before the start of each season if you live in the US — fall, spring, summer, and winter. Some of the consignment stores are online too.
Go to the store when you have the time and are alone with a friend who has similar values. And always check the label for a hundred percent silk or cotton, turn the dress inside out and see if she has an extra button or a fancy hem.
Well-tailored trousers are easy to spot and sits nicely on your body.
Sell, donate, or recycle your unused clothing. Save your time, money, and the environment.
Buy less, choose well, make it last — -Vivenne Westwood.
Why is the fast-food industry a billion dollars business?
I eat fast food once in a while. There is nothing wrong if you eat fast food on weekends, your birthday, or special occasion.
Fast food is any food that is not nutritious, and you cannot control what is inside. You cannot measure the salt or saturated oil.
Study shows people who frequently eat fast food are more likely to be obese, use the emergency rooms often, and less likely to be productive. That means health and environmental problems cost taxpayers billions of dollars annually.
Fast food is more expensive, ruins human lives, and drains our environment.
Why I Stay Away From Fast Food:
I like the way I feel, think, walk, and look. I am an African woman, and my dress is not European size 2.
Fast food makes me sick, lazy, depressed and ruins my finances.
What Can You Do?
Find out why you eat fast food every day.
My three friends from church bought a joint membership at Sam’s Club. Monthly, they buy healthier food in bulk and share it among themselves. Get your friends together and a look for where you can buy less expensive and more nutritious food.
Many restaurants in my area provide healthy food too. Talk to a restaurant’s Chef and let her or him know what you want.
Learn how to cook. Cooking is simple, and it takes time and a little bit of creativity. All good things take time. Cooking is a great time for self-reflection and planning. Use your imagination and believe in yourself.
If you don’t have the time to cook or don’t want to cook, you can hire a Personal Chef. In New York, PC fees range from $45 to $275 per hour.
Your lifestyle is a personal choice, and you have the right to live the way you desire.
Be comfortable with the food you eat, the clothing you wear, and your private group. Be you, do you — freedom.
Help yourself grow.
Bassey is a lifestyle consultant and a health/recovery coach. She has two decades of experience in mental health and addiction recovery, holds NYS social work license, and currently in private practice. She enjoys organizing and writing.
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