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Sometimes, a fake “sorry” is stupid.
Saying sorry is OK if it’s genuine, and like anything else, don’t make your “sorry” a common commodity for every Harry and Helen.
Saying sorry often can do more harm than good. Studies suggest you look cheap when you fake sorry. Is saying sorry a habit for you?
Saying “I’m Sorry” is a habit. I chose not to believe this until I observed a bright young woman, Marka, a few days ago. She has one adult child and two teenagers.
I worked with Marka for 10 hours last Monday. She used these expressions, “I’m sorry and Okay,” a few hundred times throughout the day. She used them every time she wanted to do something or interact with others. It amazed me because she knew what she was doing or talking about, but she kept running around to ask others for confirmation.
I bit my tongue several times, and I thought, “ she is so perfect.” Marka mastered perfection skills, and she displaced them for everyone to notice. Sure, I admired her as a human being, and I found it difficult to point to her positive strengths. I did it anyway.
