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Stop Parenting Your Adult Children & Start Consulting With Them
Is parenting your adult children too hard? Change your job title from a parent to a coach or a consultant.
I’m a recovering Tiger mother and I like to tell my children what to do. However, they are no longer children, but adults. And I got the memo!
Parenting young children is challenging for many parents, but consulting with our adult children can be straightforward. These three things can help us if we apply them.
- Honesty,
- Model behavior/culture,
- Mind your own business.
I. Honesty
Be honest with yourself. We can't parent or control our adult children anymore or tell them what to do. Consciously and gracefully, change your job title from parent to coach, consultant, or fellow citizen.
Recently, my daughter, Wisdom, set up a lunch, and she reminded me of the time she had — 90 minutes. First, I thought, "a business meeting with an assigned time…." But I remembered she has her life, and I have mine.
