Practical advice and some parents will not like it. Because it’s truth.

I’m outliers when it comes to parenting. I care for my mom as much as can. I don’t know what my children will do or how they will behave ten -twenty years from now.

Why? Because I have seen so many selfless parents in my life turned beggars. Also, I believe humans always thinks of themselves first.

Before reading this, a friend asked for my suggestion. She wants to pay for her child’s medical school. She paid for the child’s 4 yrs college. I told her to save and invest for her retirement. She questioned. I reminded her — - women live longer. And the good Dr’s family’s comes first before her. It’s truth, our children’s family come first before parents — for the healthy people.

For example, once my brother kept my mother stranded for hours because he used my mother’s car for his wife and children first 🤣🤣🤣. My siblings and relatives were shocked, but I wasn’t.

As you, I learned my lesson when my kids were young — my siblings questioned my new lifestyle as a young mother and I listened. They saved my life.

My parenting style is unpopular with our people in the US, but I sleep well at night and my children can’t mess with me.

Yes, I believe children can help their parents if they can afford. My partner called his parents once a week and wired money religiously monthly until they passed away. I do the same to my mom even when she doesn’t need any assistance.

I keep hope alive and do what works for me as human beings.

Thanks, Lanu.