Make Your Marriage Your Happy Place: Five Placements for a Great Marriage
A few years ago, a young woman asked me what makes a marriage great. At that moment, my life flashed in front of my eyes, followed by the lives of others around me. My memory took me back to when things were simpler or easier — fewer choices.
Today, sitting in a different era, living among other people, experimenting with advanced technology, and facing various challenges, I cannot stop but wonder how one thing stayed the same… marriage was and is a complex relationship.
Marriage is complicated, and we will never fully understand it.
When we plan to get married, no woman or man thinks that there will be times when they would not be happy. There will be times when it will feel like their marriage is falling apart. Or times when the busy routines of life will engulf the happiness in their relationship.
Spending your life with someone is challenging — especially with someone raised in a different culture or by other parents. How you deal with these challenges can make or break your marriage.
Questions to Ponder
I. Are you unhappy with your marriage?
II. How many times have you thought that things are not working?
III. How often do you believe that your marriage is falling apart?
What about a happy or healthy marriage?
In any marriage, feeling unhappy is normal. Marriage is full of ups and downs. There are happy times, and there are challenging times. In your journey together, you will agree on some things and argue about others.
But one thing stands true that we did not think of the day we got married, and one thing we are not prepared to face. Marriage is hard, complicated, and sometimes messy.
In the US, 40 to 50% of marriages end in divorce. Not surprisingly enough, this rate has stayed the same for over a decade.
What if I tell you some things that play an essential role in making a great marriage.