A good story and article. Yep, loving oneself or family is a learn behavior — -! Is like trying to ride a bike without learning how to ride it.
The truth is parenting is complicated and the most difficult job in the world. And sadly, we live what we experienced. The twist, a child raised by sick a parent is likely to be a sick parent or unconscious helicopter parent.
As a child, parents or relatives only give us what they have. As an adult, we can give ourselves what we need or want including not loving the unlovable parents or relatives.
love is a verb and a good practice make perfect.
Love matters, love yourself more!