How to Create Your Own Story

Are you afraid to create or publish your story? Try to hold onto your uniqueness and be stubborn.

“The words I needed to read today.” — A Reader

our own story can make a difference in the world.

Creating your story doesn’t only help you but can change or improve another person’s life. Your story is worth sharing, as it may invite others to create their own.

I am not a professional writer but a creative writer since I was about seven years old. I remembered my uncle reading “my book” in our living room and whispering to me, “you are a good writer.” He whispered because he didn’t want my parents to hear him talk about “a good writer.” Yep! In those days, Nigerian parents wanted their children to pursue only three professions — law, medicine, and business.

Writing is my hobby, and something I enjoy doing every day. I like to publish on Medium because people worldwide can read something fresh and inspiring every day.

If you want to change the world, pick up your pen and write.” — Martin Luther

I create stories to help people grow. I am enthusiastic and feel satisfied with my creation, as it makes a difference in ordinary people’s lives.

What are you waiting for? Create your story to help yourself and make the world a better place.

“I think writing really helps you heal yourself. I think if you write long enough, you will be a healthy person. That is, if you write what you need to write, as opposed to what will make money, or what will make fame.” — Alice Walker

Start Creating Your Story Today:

Put Off The Noise:

Noise is always a guest in our head, and sometimes, it can kill our real story. However, look for ways to dismiss the noise and define yourself. Your story defines you.

How do you put off the noise? I read a lot, mind my own business, listen to myself more than others, observe as much as possible, and reflect on my lifestyle. Then I create stories as ideas come my way. Sometimes, I totally focus on me to dismiss the noise.

What you can do:

Define yourself and your purpose. This will help you put off the noise and start sharing your story. Just do it and discard the powerful emotion of fear of sharing your work. If not, fear will interfere with your creation, how you share your work, and force you to think more of your reputation than the truth.

As a creative writer, my reputation is out of the window when I’m creating my story. However, I always keep my character. If you share your true story, forget about your reputation, and focus on the truth as your true story matters.

Be Honest With Yourself:

Be honest when you’re creating your story. You are the actor, the director, and the narrator. You are one of a kind — the creator of your own story.

For example, your personal story on mental illness, child abuse, sexual abuse, racism, sexism, domestic violence, or nasty divorce must be true. These topics can not be fiction. All other stories are not black and white, as you can add salt, sugar, and even some suspense to make your creation entertaining and build interest.

What you can do:

Be sure to remember your own fingerprint. Stick to your line of the story. How do you know you are creating your own story? When a fake follower gets offended or tells you how to share your own story. Never back off from your creation because of others' opinions or feelings about your work.

Master Your Own Life:

When we create our real story, we have no time to join the crowd or seek approval.

You choose to listen to yourself more and take responsibility for your life. You depend on how you see and value yourself. You define yourself and your work the way you want it. You choose not to dwell on the opinion of others, disappointments, rejections, or almighty feelings.

Your feeling will remind you of your reputation — not to create and publish your original work or true story. Believe in yourself and your work. Inspire and empower yourself to stick to your character and publish your original work or true story.

What you can do:
Listen to your feelings, but don’t take orders from them. I feel like not writing because I don’t make millions of dollars, but I continue writing. I felt like not going for a walk this morning, but I did. Inspire and empower yourself to stick to your writing and publish your original work.

Don’t Wait or Ask for Permission:

You are God, and you don’t need permission to create your own story.

As a creator, your story is yours. You are the director and need no permission to write and share your creation. That is, you place your self-respect above everything. You get out there with your story and own the outcome. You rather fail with your original creation than regret not sharing it.

A follower got offended by my story; let me know how mad she was, and disappeared from my universe — wahala. Be ready for the nasty comment if you write and share your true story. Why? Real stories make people think and see things differently. James Baldwin expresses, “ I have to make you conscious of the things you don’t see.”

What you can do:

Narrate and direct your stories as they come. Publish your work anywhere you have the opportunity. Choose joy rather than regret.

“Respect your uniqueness and drop your comparison — relax into your being.” — Kaz xx

Hold onto Your Uniqueness and Be Stubborn:

You may think your uniqueness is a liability or weakness; think again. You are the director of your story, and people are taking a clue from you. Do you have six fingers or one ear? Are you an immigrant living in the US with an accent?

Embrace your uniqueness and use it to your advantage.

I have a Nigerian accent, just like a Briton with a British accent. I was born and raised in Nigeria; at the time, Nigerians were proud of their accent and currency, Naira. Today, the name Nigeria or Nigerian accent may seem like a liability to many Nigerians — but it’s not for me because I know her and myself better than most people around me.

The truth is, you know yourself better than your friends or family. There is something special in you; use it to your advantage.

“Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.”-Pens Up Press

What you can do:

Never be ashamed of your uniqueness. Is it easy in the ever ending social media comparison culture? No! But, it’s more expensive and time-consuming not being yourself. Nyakim Gatwech, a popular model, can teach you something about taking advantage of your uniqueness. Go ahead and create your own story.

Remember:

How to create and publish your own story:

  1. Put off the noise.
  2. Hold onto your uniqueness and be stubborn.
  3. Don’t ask for permission.
  4. Be honest with yourself.
  5. Master your own life.

And as always, remember to own, direct, and control your story the way you want. The ball is in your court.

Help yourself grow.

For your reading pleasure:

https://hbr.org/2005/01/whats-your-story

Written by

LMSW🧠Social Worker* Lifestyle Consultant* Health/Recovery Coach* I enjoy putting things together• I write stories that help you grow @bybassey. Kulifestyle.com

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