He projects strength and model self-confidence. Interview your father or a father figure today and encourage your children to do the same.

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Who is your father or a father figure? Or who was he as a human being?

My father didn’t tell me how to live. He lived and let me watch him do it — Clarence Budington Kelland

Fatherhood is a challenging and remarkable job. My personal and professional experience shows children need their father for strength and self-confidence. I think a father gives his children a little bit of arrogance, a Nigerian way.

Children always hold their father’s actions to a high standard, and they worry less about what they say. Do your job to the best of your ability because your children will never forget — -positive or negative.

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Happy Father’s Day Tips for You to Share — —

  • Take care of yourself. Effective parenting is tough.
  • Value and respect yourself.
  • Value and honor your spouse or the mother of your children after divorce
  • Value your children more than any other thing.
  • Not sure, seek help — -counseling, coaching, or psychotherapy
  • Show your children what to do and how to think for themselves.
  • Share with children your successes and failures. Permit them to fail and learn from their mistakes.
  • Teach your children living skills, values, and civil responsibility. And give them space to question some of your values — -materialism, racism, sexism, colorism, classism, and others!
  • Never punish your children because of divorce.
  • If you are divorced, drop your ego and help your children grow.
  • Be careful of depriving your young children the role of father or mother. In the worst case, supervise visitation.
  • Money or material things cannot replace the role of a parent, so take your responsibility seriously. Society often reflects what we do or do not with our children.
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  • Domestic violence or drug issue — — look for a father figure and always supervise your children with caretakers, relatives, and friends. And find a way to help restore the father/child relationship. My professional experience shows young children want their parent no matter what the crime is that they committed

In the comments below — -

Introduce your father or a father figure and share two or three things about you and your father or you and your children. I’ll start —

My father’s name was Jeremiah. Friends called him Jerry. Others called him Papa J. His wife called him Dear. His seven children called him Papa or Papa J.

My father was a man of action — -reserved, a builder, a carpenter by trade, and married only to my mother in an era of many wives and concubines.

On Sundays, my father played Chess with a group of men — 13 -100 years old. I was the one who got to call him for dinner. I always walked inside the dry-cleaner’s shop, which was also a Chess Center. Other children stayed across the street, screaming at their father, but I chose to walk into Lion’s den. When I entered, my father would look at the youngest man in the room, and man would stand up for me to sit down. I sat on the stool and crossed my legs, not acceptable in those days, and my father would smile, while others looked on. Lessons — my father taught me from a young age to occupy space and be myself. He was a role model for young men in the group and showed them how to treat women.

As a young child, I was fascinated to see my father climb at ease on top of the roof. And he would walk around, nailing the woods together and wave at us. For my young mind, he was doing the impossible. He was more than a carpenter/builder, but a semi-God. My father portrayed strength and self-confidence. I believed his action when he handed me my keys and said, bye without scolding me for forgetting the keys several times. My dad was ahead of his generation.

I have millions of stories, but enough, for now, shares yours in the comment below.

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Remember — -

As a father, your actions speak louder than words. Find a way to be in your child’s life. Drop your ego and help your child grow with self-confidence and self-love. Divorce cannot destroy your relationship with your children and your former spouse. You matter, and your family matters. Seek help as needed and be a man of action.

Help yourself grow,


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LMSW🧠Social Worker* Lifestyle Consultant* Health/Recovery Coach* I enjoy putting things together• I write stories that help you grow @bybassey. Kulifestyle.com

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