Experience the Difference

Taste happiness and personal growth

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Alex. “Grandma, come and visit us as usual.”

Grandma Elizabeth. “I can’t, social distancing. Listen to the expert, Dr. Fauci.”

Alex. “No worries, Grandma, dad will Zoom you in on Sunday after church.”

Elizabeth. “Zoom what!”

Alex “better than FaceTime”

Elizabeth. “Right, I can’t wait to try zoom me!”

Have you ever tried something new? It’s courageous to experiment with new things. From trying new food to changing negative self-talk. Every adventure brings happiness.

Personal growth is a life worth living. We grow when we learn and accomplish things for ourselves, our family, and community — this brings fulfillment.

Learning lasts a lifetime. Any successful person on the planet is likely to experience both failure and success. And she or he knows the difference.

Happiness is a choice. Misery is a choice too. Many of us experience both, and they are not the same.

Joy is having peace within ourselves, taking responsibility for our life, seeing the bright side in all situations and crafting our lifestyle.

Happy people are more positive, wear what they want, enjoy their job, like themselves and others, and distribute smiles anywhere they go.

Happiness drives us to focus on our goal and wiggles us to enjoy our life. It reminds us to invest in ourselves, mentor others, and dwells in positive relationships.

Happiness does not mean everything is perfect, but improving our behavior, actions, reactions, and habits bring happiness.

Misery comes when we are hopeless, lose ourselves, and practice faulty thinking.

Pain can be our comforter when we hand over our sense of worth to things, people, and the environment. Or measure our worth by the approval of our friends and family or just expect others to direct our life.

Always look for something positive in your life.

What do you see; a rain or a rainbow?

“Normal” Weight Or Obesity

“Normal” weight is not complicated.

Yours is 106; mine is 147, my next-door neighbor, 169 pounds — We can bend down and tie our shoes, put on our necklace, tuck in our shirt, share a seat with others on a bus or train, and enjoy visiting our family doctor.

Some cultures celebrate excess weight as a sign of good health and wealth. But the experts and researches from the National Institute of Health suggest that obesity houses heart diseases, cancer, diabetes, and others.

NIH encourages us to maintain a healthy body mass index (BMI) because excess weight complicates overall public health — it drives the cost of health care and shortens lives.

Bodyweight is somewhat a personal issue, and you can make a change you want to see.

Madison sharesI weigh 273 pounds. It felt right then, I’ve a great career and a beautiful family. The weight keeps going on and on, and one day in the public park, my daughter asked me to swings, I couldn’t. My body and face turned red. I lost it. I made a change with my food and lost 119 pounds, still counting. The difference now — I can tie my shoes, wear a high heel, pay less for an airplane ticket, and play with my children. I stopped lying to myself or getting angry with my doctor, who knows his job. I took control of my life.”

Bodyweight is a personal and public health issue and each of us can make an observation.

What does it mean to you—? Feel energetic, save time and money, wear what you like, start dating again, become more productive, or get a new job? Taste the difference — decide on your “normal” weight.

Personal Growth Or Stagnation

Experience the difference! We can measure our growth easily by comparing our actions and the results.

For example, I joined Toastmasters to work on my public speaking. My first speech was disjointed, and the delivery was flat — terrible.

After a few months of learning, practicing, and observing experienced members, I improved significantly — body language, tone of voice, and timing. I am better today than the day I started but i still need work on it. Other members reported the same experience.

Learning lasts a lifetime.

Growth comes with self-understanding and development — we continue to engage in activities to improve ourselves, or career, or family/community.

We take classes to brush our leadership skills, learn a new language, and practice assertiveness with colleagues and family members. And we get to know who we are, what we want, and where we are going — our feelings, behaviors, and thoughts.

We read meaningful books, for example, Give and Take by Adam Grant, and engage in positive thinking — search for the good in all situations. Importantly, we listen to others and observe others who know or experience more than us — engages with bright minds or “ big” people.

The book of Proverbs 27:17 concludes, iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.

Also, it is essential to engage in something that directs you to the growth mindset, meaningful life, and a change you want to see in your community.

Stagnation keeps us waiting, makes us just feel OK, focuses our attention on what is wrong, and who wronged us. Our brain becomes inactive and rarely self-examines.

What can you do? Change something today — move or stand. Compare reading a book for an hour and watching TV for 2 hours then journal your experience.

Learning lasts a lifetime — try something new this week. Start your journey to peace and fulfillment; your life will never be the same again!

Help yourself grow


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LMSW🧠Social Worker* Lifestyle Consultant* Health/Recovery Coach* I enjoy putting things together• I write stories that help you grow @bybassey. Kulifestyle.com

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