Brave and I hope your story helps many women.
Secured and responsible men love their women for who they are. These men tend to look for a confidence woman not perfect hair or beauty. My partner confessed this quality too.
I gave my current partner a second thought because he was himself for our first date. It was refreshing. He is still himself today after many decades.
Practice make progress and thanks for taking 99% responsibility for your behavior.
Happy dating and you are heading to find your true love.
Best!