Allison,
Classic story!
As always, I keep reading this again and again. Progressive mindset makes things better.
We have to open our eye and see things as it is. I saw the four walls of schools in different two zip codes. I observed mental clinic in different two cities with the same agency and all patient with the same health insurance. It always like day and night in the same county.
I think in an abusive relationship, the victim rarely see things clearly or value her or his contribution.Time is up and our negotiation skills matter now. No more abuse or everlasting talking without action. Black women are ready as ever. It starts with me.
I appreciate you and work. You keep us talking, thinking, and learning.