Allison,
My weekend starts with your insightful story and lesson.
For me, it starts with us, front and center. Moslem women/girls wear their head scarf with confidence. Black women/girls can wear their hair and skin too!
Our daughters are observing us. They look at their mothers for direction especially during the formative years.
My former director (a Black woman) asked me to change my hairstyle in a case conference meeting. She projected her insecurity on my hair and I didn't let her get away with it. I asked her to change her height, lol. She did not like my braids, but clients did!
I admire you and your work. Thanks for sharing!