#1 Self-interest helps you grow and find a sense of purpose to care for others.

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As individuals, it is automatic to look for ourselves first in a group photo, and most of us turn our heads when a baby screams in a supermarket.

Two things that drive us are self-interest and caring for others.

1. Self-interest :

Some people equate self-interest to outright selfishness. I hear this all the time when friends and family members accuse their loved ones of being selfish or self-centered. I’m always curious to find out what they mean by selfishness.

Star complained about her mother's selfishness because she refused to pick her up from the airport at 6 am. She lamented, “ my…


Gratitude takes effort and hard work.

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Gratitude takes effort,
It takes hard work.
Start with one thing in the morning — being alive.
Focus on what you have,
Remember what you have done
Work on what you want
Start each day with a grateful heart.

“Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.”
— William Arthur Ward.

Help yourself grow.

Note: I lost the original poem while I was about to publish it. I’m grateful I can remember a few lines with the limited time I had. Thank you for reading!

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Look for pride, patience, and self-discipline.

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What do you want from a friend? How much have you grown with your friend in two or five years?

The world-class advice goes if you want to be successful, walk with successful people. That is somewhat true. But how do you define success? We all describe our success differently. So, take the time to decide what success means to you. Then use your parameter of success to look for what you want from a friend.

A true friend can help you grow.

Allis’s good friend, Laura, is her cleaning person. She said, “Laura works with a smile on her…


Anger is a normal emotion. Know the root of your anger and how to embrace, manage, and use it for inspiration.

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Anger is a normal emotion. It feels similar to other emotions such as happiness, surprise, and sadness.

According to American Psychological Association, anger is “an emotion characterized by antagonism toward someone or something you feel has deliberately done you wrong.”

Think of it this way — we or others do something that makes us happy, or we or others do something to make us angry.

Feel free to express anger as needed and don’t suppress it. The truth is, out-of-control anger can make our friends and family members shun us. Use your anger for good.

Three good things about anger:

  1. Understand anger.
  2. Know the reason…


How to find a cure.

How can we cure envy? There’s no cure, but it’s treatable.

Cain murdered Abel,
Because he wanted Abel’s blessings
Drop the anxiety and be you,
like yourself, or improve you
Mind your business and work on yourself.

Fix our eyes on our businesses,
Cut our coat according to our cloth
We all cannot be Jeff Bezos
Look at our fingers; they’ll never be the same
Mind your business and work on yourself.


Learn how your good health is more than physical appearance.

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Living a healthy lifestyle is loving yourself, your family, and your community.

Why?

We live longer, save money, have the energy to enjoy our family, serve our community, and help taxpayers pay less for our medical bills.

Healthy living has obvious impacts on our physical well-being. We also know that living a healthy lifestyle has significant benefits for our bank account, job, and home life.

Why is the saying goes, “health is wealth?”

“If you have health, you probably will be happy, and if you have health and happiness, you have the wealth you need, even if it is not…


Listen to your patient and look beyond what you know or have seen before. The best doctor is your patient.

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You are your best doctor. Pay attention to any changes in your body and meet with the expert doctor in the next hour or a day.

Dear Doctor,

I didn’t go to medical school. I don’t envy you but admire and respect you. Twelve to sixteen years of medical training is not a joke. You told me once, “I didn’t have a life from the ages 21 to 31.” Yep, I believe you. I know you hold patients’ life in your hands.

You’re such a kind person. You listened, made referrals, and asked about the well-being of my family.

You…


Don’t force yourself on people or things. Says the Pulitzer Prize-winner, Nikole Hannah-Jones. Learn how.

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“I don’t want to force myself into an institution that doesn’t seem to appreciate what I bring.” Nikole Hannah-Jones.

The University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill declined Ms. Hannah-Jones’s tenure faculty position without a valid reason. Then they awarded her the same position after she questioned the college Board of Trustees.

The truth is Ms. Hannah-Jones’s supporters called the national press. And the college Board of Trustees chose to honor her credentials and ran a hundred meters away from the negative press.

However, Ms. Hannah-Jones declined the college's late offer and took her profitable skill to Howard University. …


Why healthy snacks? Learn more about healthy snacks and how to cook a broccoli snack.

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Why healthy snacks?

A healthy snack is good for you after a long day without food or after an hour in the gym. It can help replenish our energy and speed up muscle recovery.

Studies have shown that too much junk food makes us sick.

According to public health experts, too much unhealthy food negatively affects our health and well-being. They concluded that too much consumption of processed food had become a public health crisis.

However, who doesn’t like sugary and salty snacks? …


Guest Prompt Week 1, Day 2 “Do you willingly take risks, knowing you might fail regarding matters of love? “ — Riku Arikiri

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“Do you willingly take risks, knowing you might fail regarding matters of love? “ -Riku Arikiri

Love matters. Risks matter, but life matters more.

Do I willingly take risks, knowing I might fail for the sake of love?

One word, NO.

True, love is complicated, and she can build or ruin lives. However, I think true love is somewhat not complex, and she is not never-ending suffering.

Often, lovers disappointed me, and I’ve disappointed others too. But I didn’t know for sure my lovers will change their minds, and they didn’t know for sure I’ll break their heart.

A burning…

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